Whether you’re actively looking for your soulmate or just passively waiting to see where the universe takes you, chances are you’ve wondered just where you soulmate might be. After all, they could be across the country, or even across the globe! But chances are your soulmate is actually much closer to home.
According to the statistics on how people meet their spouses, most find them already within their social network with 39% of people meeting spouses through friends, 15% meeting them at work, and 7% meeting them through family.
So what if you’ve already run into your soulmate at a friend’s wedding or in the break room? How are you supposed to know that they’re the “one” for you? You might be on the lookout for traditional signs that someone is into you, but the truth is it’s often difficult to tell if someone is flirting with you. In a recent study, women only correctly identified that men were flirting with them 18% of the time and men weren’t much better, identifying that women were flirting with them only 36% of the time. How can you tell if you’ve met the one, then?
Be open to re-evaluating someone as a possible love interest. Sometimes when you meet someone things just work well between you socially, and neither of you questions that you’re compatible, but sometimes it takes a few meetings to establish that kind of rapport.
While first impressions are important, sometimes it’s the fourth or fifth impression that kindles a romantic spark. If you didn’t completely rule someone out as a romantic partner the first time you met them, you may find they fit that role for you later one.
It’s also possible you met your soulmate at work where dating may be difficult or against the rules. According to one statistic, 58% of workers have had some sort of office romance. In that case, you’ll have to wait until one or both of you have moved on to a new workplace before you can start a relationship.
When you’re on the hunt for your soulmate, it might be a good idea to listen to the opinions of people who know you. Not only because they may be able to more objectively suggest someone whose personality would mesh with yours, but because they may also be better able to spot someone who’s into you than you are.
Bringing friends and family into your spouse search can be a double-edged sword, though, as they may may accidentally steer you toward the kinds of people they would personally like, or over-value things like income or social status in a potential mate for you. So listen to advice, but always trust your own intuition most.